Self image and self esteem is a huge deal to all guys, women too, but really for guys. Women don’t usually need to do much to attract a guy, usually just stand there and look good, maybe carry an air of mystery, and that’s enough. For men though, it’s tougher than women know. Men usually have no clue how to communicate with the opposite sex and fumble their way through a “conversation”, usually screwing it up within the first 2 sentences. This will have an impact on a guy’s self esteem. Learning how to communicate with females is an art most men need to actually study and commit to memory in order for it to eventually become a natural thing.
Looks really don’t have anything to do with your success with women. Close the sports magazines and have a look at the real world; most men are average looking and they manage to find a girlfriend, get married, have children etc.
One of the biggest mistakes a lot of men make is the whole seduction thing. First off, you shouldn’t even be thinking seduction yet. Not by a long shot. That is a fatal error. Not a single woman is going to be “oh yes! Take me big boy!” the very first time you even talk to her. You will either earn a black eye or a kick in the groin if you attempt to seduce her immediately. At the very least word will get round to stay away from THAT guy because he is a creepy stalker type. Women can smell B.S. coming from a mile off, so don’t even try it.
Right then. So this is where you put on your big boy pants and try attracting the kind of women you always wanted to talk to, but were always afraid to. Relax your face, but don’t look catatonic either. Keep a slight smile on your lips, very slight so you look friendly and approachable, and not like a shark on the hunt with all your teeth hanging out. Keep your lips closed. Straighten your spine but don’t look like a stiff old butler and turn your body ever so slightly in the direction of the woman you are interested in from across the room. Don’t turn your body dead on toward her, that’s too forward and too obvious. SHE must notice YOU. Keep your head up and eyes at the same level as the people around you so you look approachable and easygoing. This is key.
Make eye contact with more than one woman. Keep moving around and interacting with everyone. Every now and again try to make eye contact with the woman you are interested in. If she makes eye contact with you more than once, she will probably be open to exchanging a few words with you.
So now you approach her. Awesome. So now what do you do? Firstly, don’t panic and blow the whole thing. Move to her side and turn very slightly towards her. Your bodies should make a “V” shape. You don’t want to come across as eager. Puppies are eager, you are cool. She will more than likely be with some friends and is chatting with them, so now and again, if you have something relevant to say or add to the conversation, do so. Just don’t stand there like a dummy smiling like a fool looking awkward. She will talk back. Now if the place is crowded and loud, don’t keep leaning into her and say “what?” or I can’t hear you”. Simply turn your ear towards her frowning slightly, and she will catch on.
She should be the one leaning into you to make herself heard, if she is interested and or attracted to you, even on a subconscious level, not you into her. By you leaning towards her every time she speaks, you are doing 2 things. #1 you look insecure and needy and #2 you are invading her personal space. Both are extreme no-no’s. She will be turned off by your behaving needy and she will be annoyed or creeped out by you constantly hovering over her.
After a few minutes of conversation, touch her shoulder or hand for a few seconds. Be deliberate about it but keep the touch light and without moving around. Keep touching her every few minutes for a few seconds but keep the touch “buddy style” until sexuality is injected. Here it is important to heighten her emotionally and to relate on that level, so get her to talk about anything that made her feel happy, sad or embarrassed.
Watch her mouth when she is talking. Don’t stare though because this is again stepping into creep territory. This next part should be a breeze for all guys, so at this stage of the game, if she has not made some excuse to leave or abruptly shut down the conversation and moved on, you are on the right track so, this is where you start to think of things (preferably about her) that arouse you. This will ever so slightly change your body language and interestingly your pheromones, which she will be perceptive to without even knowing it. It will slightly alter the timber of your voice and hers will change as well. Unconsciously she will be pretty much ready for you to sweep her off her feet and make her fantasies come true.
Things will probably take off hot and heavy from this point on so keep a cool head and all should be just as you planned it.
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